Victoria Palafox
Oct 26, 2021
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Identifying healthy/unhealthy (“toxic”) relationships
A new relationships can be a wonderful and exciting time. During this time it can be easy to romanticize your partner and/or brush off unhealthy behaviors; otherwise known as “red flags”. This is why it is important to learn how to identify the difference between healthy, unhealthy (“toxic”), and abusive relationships; not only for yourself but you can potentially be helping a friend or loved one. Below you can find a short list to give you a better understanding:
Healthy relationship:
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Respect: values each other’s feelings, boundaries, opinions, and needs.
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Trusting: believing one another and not having to “prove” trustworthiness.
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Equal: you can your partner make decisions together and hold one another to the same standards.
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Consent: you and your partner both consent to sexual activity and can safely discuss what is and is not comfortable.
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Communicative: talking openly about problems and respecting each other’s opinions.
Unhealthy relationships:
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Disrespectful: inconstant behaviors towards one another.
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Not trusting: feeling entitled to invade your partners privacy and refusing to believe your partner.
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Control: believing that one’s opinion or desires is more important that the others
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Pressured into sexual activity: guilting, pressuring, or coercing your partner into sexual acts or reproductive choices.
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Non-communicative: not discussing or fighting when problem arise.
Abusive Relationships: (Please asses your safety risk. Safety will always be our number one concern.)
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Mistreats: not respecting thoughts, feelings, or physical safety.
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Making untrue accusations: accusations of cheating or breaking boundaries. Your partner making you “prove” your trustworthiness by handing over phone, email, and/or social media passwords.
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Control: One partner makes all the decisions ( or certain parts such as financial) without the others input.
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Force: forcing or pressuring partner into sexual activity they did not want. It can also include taking control of your partners reproductive rights by pressuring them to have or not have a child, or sabotaging birth control.
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Communication: communicates in a hurtful, insulting, and/or threatening manner.
Remember to ask for support, you are not alone. If you have any questions do not hesitate to contact a professional.
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